By Liz Chang
Only recently have I become quick to notice the number (read, lack) of people who look like me at conferences and professional events. At the most recent professional conference I attended for work, I spotted no more than three or four Asian Americans out of over 300 people present. After studying Marriage and Family Therapy and interning as a clinician in child and family therapy services, I recently entered into the world of substance use disorder treatment and prevention. I already knew that there were not many Asian Americans in the field of therapy and counseling in general, but I had no idea how rare it would be for me to interact with an Asian American chemical dependency professional. About this, I am not surprised. However, what surprised me at the conference was when someone looked directly at me, probably saw (read, should have seen) my adult-colored name tag, and mistook me to be a middle school student. This has never happened to me before in my adult life.
Maybe she didn’t see my name tag. Even so, I wonder if the same mistake would have been made if I were a White woman. Yes, Asian American women tend to look young. And, as for me, I already have insecurities about my age as a young professional anyway. I graduated high school, went straight to college, jumped right into graduate school, and here I am in my first full-time job. I’ll let you do the calculations. It took me two years as an intern therapist to get over my insecurities as a young clinician, but it only took one minute of being mistook as a thirteen year old for that to all come flooding back. As much as I feel confident about the quality of work, experience, and skills that I have as a therapist, I get caught up in the subtle ageism that exists in my interaction with other professionals. It certainly does not help that I, being Asian American, look younger than non-Asian coworkers who are the same age as I am.
How does my youthful face impact the perception other professionals have of my qualifications, skills, and experience?
How does their perception of me impact the way I interact with them?
And, how does my own age insecurity affect all of that?
Every now and then, I come around to thinking about these questions. To be honest, I am not always satisfied with the responses that I have.
So, I will leave you with the questions and a Bible verse that has often been a source of encouragement for me as a young Asian American woman involved in leadership and a professional career. It is a verse that speaks empowerment for young people to model discipleship, and I think it is applicable for all settings:
“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.” – 1 Timothy 4:12
Liz Chang resides in Seattle, WA and works for Navos as a substance abuse prevention & intervention specialist at a local middle school, and as a child and family therapist. She graduated from Seattle Pacific University with a Masters of Science degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, and is working towards certification as a Chemical Dependency Professional. She enjoys spending quality time with friends, making music, playing basketball, sunshine with a cool breeze, and mint chocolate chip ice cream.
You are spot on! One sister was floored when I told her my age at church. She’s turning the same age, but we are different races and totally different builds.
And aren’t the reactions of surprise (and sometimes awe), priceless? I’m sure we will continue to appreciate our youthful appearances more and more as we continue to age. 🙂