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Photo by Kate Ter Haar

By Debbie Gin

Almost ten years ago, I endured one of the most painful experiences in my life.  Twice.  We lost our first child at 8 weeks in utero; we eventually named her Cadence.  Then less than a year later, we lost Nathanial at 10 weeks in utero. (more…)

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Photo by Jeff Turner

By Dorcas Cheng-Tozun 

You’ve probably heard that colloquial definition of insanity that’s floated around the Internet for a while now, the one about doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. No one really knows who said it and psychologists take issue with it, but the concept has stuck in our collective conscious nonetheless. (more…)

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Photo by Roelen Fernandez

By Jerrica Ching

Farewell to the first month of 2016!  Just as some of you pointed out throughout the month of January, I too am the type of person who typically will have the same resolutions year after year.  I have noticed however that after each year, the expectations that I have for myself to follow through with resolutions have become much more realistic.  When the expectations for myself are reasonable, I am much more likely to follow through. (more…)

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By Joy Wong

Several weeks ago, I decided to perm my typically straight hair.  It came after weeks of deliberation, and after the perm, I felt glad for the change.  However, in the first week, I started getting some reactions from people that were making me extremely self-conscious.  I talked to my mom about it over the phone and she said, “Why should you care what other people think?  Remember — you have a right to be ugly!”

This struck me as such a strange thing to say, and yet, it felt freeing.  Because my mom hadn’t seen my permed hair yet, I knew she wasn’t saying that my curly locks now made me ugly.  (more…)

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Shared by Aileen Hong

For most of my life, I really struggled with measuring up.  Specifically, I felt the need to strive for the Asian American Dream.  I grew up hearing stories from my grandmother about my cousins who attended Ivy League schools, got respectable high-paying jobs as doctors and lawyers, and married good-looking successful spouses.  As I heard these stories, I wanted to be someone my grandmother could be proud of.  I secretly hoped that I would be worthy of her praise too, not just my cousins.  So, I internalized these stories of their worldly successes as expectations upon myself.  (more…)

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Shared by Jeney Park-Hearn

What have you been learning lately?

One of the challenges I have as an Asian American woman is resisting the Superwoman image.  For instance, there’s a part of me that wants to be a good mom and wife and a domestic Martha Stewart.  There’s another part of me that says I have to excel in everything (more…)

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Jessica Chen is a full-time doctoral student at Loma Linda in Marital & Family Therapy. She has an MFT degree from Fuller Theological Seminary as well as a BA in Design Media Arts from UCLA.  Her favorite food is “niu rou mien” (translation: beef noodle soup), and her favorite hobbies include calligraphy and spending time with Madeleine, her miniature schnauzer.

What are your ministry passions?  How did you discern these passions in your life?

While growing up in a Taiwanese American church, I started mentoring sisters and seeing a lot of things I didn’t know how to address from a purely biblical point of view.  (more…)

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