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By Joy Wong

“God saw everything that he had made, and indeed, it was very good.” –Genesis 1:31 NRSV

I’ve always been the kind of person who likes to feel like I’ve mastered something — whether it’s a particular project, a hobby, a performance, etc. One of the greatest challenges I’ve found in parenting, particularly in the first years of life, has been the constant changes. (more…)

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By Liz Chang

I am capable, independent, and driven. This was the message that was modeled by my father during the years of my mother’s time away. She was physically present in the home, but her mental health, impacted by a brain tumor, prevented her from being her normal self. (more…)

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Photo by Roelen Fernandez

By Jerrica Ching

Farewell to the first month of 2016!  Just as some of you pointed out throughout the month of January, I too am the type of person who typically will have the same resolutions year after year.  I have noticed however that after each year, the expectations that I have for myself to follow through with resolutions have become much more realistic.  When the expectations for myself are reasonable, I am much more likely to follow through. (more…)

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By Sharon Lee Song

At the end of 2015 as I started discerning and moving forward with a major transition from urban ministry to another ministry called Alive & Well Women, the burning question at the forefront of my mind was, “Lord, how am I supposed to BE in this season of transition?” I had been struggling with feeling disconnected with God and remaining alive and well through it. (more…)

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By Dorcas Cheng-Tozun

My experience growing up in a Chinese immigrant family in California is almost embarrassingly stereotypical. I was taught to respect my elders and work hard in school. I learned piano and attended Chinese school. In academics, I was held to the usual Chinese standards: only As and A-pluses were allowed; anything short of 100 percent on tests was failure; and all mistakes were earth-shattering events. My mom was very much what we’ve come to call a tiger mom, and my dad was her supportive (though mostly silent) partner in constantly pushing my older sister and me to do better. (more…)

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By Eun Joo Angela Ryo

Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.  –Dr. Seuss

Authenticity.  What comes to your mind when you hear the word?  It takes me back to when I was in eighth grade.  The first week of my eighth grade year, my counselor called me to her office and told me that I was missing one class.  (more…)

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warriorinpinkannouncement(facebook)By Vivian Mabuni

Introduction

The Lord is the one who goes ahead of you; He will be with you. He will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.

–Deuteronomy 31:8

She had it all—described as an “Asian Martha Stewart.” Her home, the food she cooked, the clothes she wore, the clothes her children wore—all flawless.

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By Eun Joo Angela Ryo

I work at a youth residential detention facility with undocumented unaccompanied minors. They are boys under the age of 18, mostly from Guatemala, Honduras, and El Salvador, who have been detained at the border as they try to enter the United States without proper documents. Some have been drug or sex trafficked but most of them cross on their own hoping to be reunited with their parents or relatives. (more…)

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Photo by Butch Osborne

By Dorcas Cheng-Tozun

I’ll admit, I sometimes wonder about this. The impossible standards, the emotional distance, the indirect communication — and all that smiting in the Scriptures for offenses that really don’t seem that bad. All God would have to do is add piano-playing and good grades to the Fruit of the Spirit to become a fully fledged Asian deity. (more…)

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By Ann Chen

As a Chinese-American, I’ve grown up in a culture that values “saving face” and rewards perfection and success. I’ve seen this play out not only in my academic/professional life, but in my ministry and in my personal relationships.

One thing that I’ve grown to embrace more is a willingness to fail.

Or perhaps it’s not the willingness. It’s the acceptance that I’ve failed. Many times. And I continue to fail. (more…)

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